The Daily News
"Hey, don't make fun of Albert Finney!"edition.
Haha.
1 Buncha bananaheads. I hear laughter bouncing off the walls. I'm not sure as to what it all means.
2 Ah, you know who you is.
3 Mmmmmm. Moroccan oil.
4 ; )
5 Hehe. = ) <---clearly a DN shout out to an honest and sincere friend. Meanwhile...
6 I hate the Yankees.
7 M'bad. I don't ever mean to reveal my true feelings, as you all obviously must know.
8 Still, I hate the Yankees. That team was bought, pure and simple.
9 Ah, I'm probably sour grapes.
10 Yep.
11 No doubt about it.
12 Moving on, Part 1: Thought I'd change it fast. After all, I'm a teacher, and for whatever reason in life, we are doomed to follow rules nobody else in the entire universe must follow.
13 Ah, vell.
14 I've always felt that nearly any time that people wish to put restrictions of others' freedom, it's a rule that is simply prejudice. Teachers are always expected to play by a different set of rules. I clearly never do, and never will.
15 Seriously.
16 Teachers are expected to give up at least twelve of the first thirteen original Bill of Rights.
17 Some clarity? Okay, fine. This Old Brown Shoe has managed to remain as human as possible, and to jump in and enjoy, love, worry, hate, and encourage everybody, the same rights as every other citizen in the Western world.
18 I personally refuse, and I do think most teachers would agree, to put a muzzle on and allow stupidity and nonsense to enter the mainstream.
19 We just ain't cut like that.
20 Yeesh.
21 Just thought I'd air that out.
22 Moving on: Know what annoys me?
23 People.
24 Know what I LOVE?
25 People.
26 The trouble with people is that they tend to see everything immediately from their own perspectives, and seldom take time to consider the feelings of others.
27 I don't leave myself out in that equation. I too am quite guilty on that count, but who isn't? We are, all of us, above and beyond all sensitivity, all about ourselves.
28 Yet we don't consider the feelings of others SO often that it is clearly something worth not only mentioning, but calling out. And I put my hand up as one of the first guilty parties. How critically mean we can be, often without even knowing that we are doing it.
29 Trouble is, we tend to take others for granted. And when they go through their own idiocies, we tend to distance, in what we think is elegant fashion. They may need a moment, or maybe even a day, or even a quick response to a simple e-mail, or twitter, or whatever.
30 Just a quick word of advice, for that it's worth: if that person is just a normal person in your life, give them an answer; give them some sort of quick response. It takes milliseconds to answer and it brings warmth and certainty into someone's day. They chose YOU as a person meaningful enough in their lives to give a "holla". Dude. It takes twelve seconds to "holla" back. wtf? Just do it. It's easy for you, and may mean the entire universe to them.
31 Ignoring people altogether is hurtful and insulting. Think about it. Straight up. Mean. I've been guilty of this, because I know that the people I can truly depend on are a safe bet. And yet I personally am guilty of being too busy, or too certain that I can always catch them later. And often, I don't. It is a simple gesture to acknowledge people. It is always too easy to blow them off. Give a wink, a smile, or a thumbs up. Everyone is insecure to an extent, so we all need to take the extra minute to be at least polite. I failed on that one last year when I had got my 15 units. Lost a best friend from childhood in the process. So give it all a careful thought.
32 I just thought I'd throw that one out there, because we are SO immersed in technology these days that we forget some basic common courtesies.
33 One of the most beautiful things about my Mom is that she always felt that there was nothing common about common courtesy.
34 <sigh>
35 I miss my Mom. <tear>
36 As I miss common courtesy.
37 Moving on, Part the Second: Well, I have now officially been to the gym twice this week. Might not sound like much, but each day was a grueling full hour of intense swimming.
38 It's funny too, because I'm pretty certain that I can actually DO this, because I have done it in the past. The importance was following through with a second trip to the gym, a public announcement, a private announcement to the people closest to me, and then a plan.
39 The plan is quite simple, and the last time I used it, it worked famously. It's a transferable skill.
Listen:
The first ten full laps I would spend ridding myself of the past, "pulling water" behind me. I wouldn't completely throw things behind, but things that I felt were now destructive, or thoughts that while sentimental, might now be destructive, right behind, so that I could physically see them bubble and splash with each dig.
40 The second ten laps would be an immediate plan for the next three days. If the old sentimental things would try to enter, I would instantly consider them now irrelevant, and make a list of things that could physically happen in the next three days.
41 Yesterday, for example, I pulled all the angst of the past month behind, and there was plenty. During the next ten laps, I devised a plan to string my wonderful guitar, Annabel, sort papers alphabetically, and write the DN. Three pretty practical and doable things. I did all three last night.
42 On my third series of laps, each of which was a full down-and-back in a long pool lane, I would plan what I intended to do to make my life better in the next few weeks, and in the next few years. It became instantly clear, and I've already devised a schedule as a result of the swim.
43 Three simple things: lose the pain of the past, make a plan for the immediate present, and make a doable plan for the future. In one hour of swimming, I would keep my mind off the toughness of pulling major water for an hour, and instead working on the physical and mental demands that might make for a healthier future.
44 In my next DN, I intend to give a blow-by-blow of the hilarity of trying to nail those three goals. But for right now, I thought I'd pass this strategy on to anyone trying to make things better for themselves via gym. Most could start as early as tonight.
45 A LOT of our tension and misery is self-inflicted. A disciplined regimen, both physical and mental, could do remarkable things to allow one to awaken to a much more stable, strong, and ultimately happy go of it.
46 It worked my first night out, so here's hoping I might be able to offer a bit of hope to others. I felt completely empowered, strong, and ready to rock by the time I got hom, and did indeed string my guitar, alphabetize student papers, and write last night's DN.
47 I even avoided Facebook for a stretch, because there's a lot of the past lingering there. Stringing my guitar took the place of sighing about things that won't change. Alphabetizing student papers gave me a jump on a deadline that will become super-intense within three weeks, and writing the DN is always a much longer chore than most might realize.

48 I also thought that anyone reading this could adapt the principles to their own lives, and quite quickly do some positive lifestyle adjustments.
49 Well, that's about it for this week. I fully intend to work out every single day, seven days a week no matter what. My head has cleared, my love still love, and my dreams of happiness and health for my family and friends larger than life. Laughter and screaming resulted in someone shrieking out, "HEY! DON'T MAKE FUN OF ALBERT FINNEY!" I have NO idea what that was about, but the laughter lasted well into the night.
50 Have a lovely and important weekend. I hear loud laughter in the house right now, almost tearful. Is there anything more lovely? Ah, the sun will indeed, come out. Get some sleep, willya?
51 Live life.
52 Love life.
51 Peace.
~H~
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