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The apple of my eye. Happy Birthday Caitlin!
1 Today is Caitlin's birthday, so happy birthday to the best daughter a dad could have!
2 We're going to the Giants' game tonight. Can't wait.
3 That picture up there is of a wonderful moment in our lives when we enjoyed a time out from life and cruised to Capitola for fun, shopping, lunch, and a nice day. We had all of that and more. Does it show?
4 She is one strong cookie. Her grandma passed away on Sunday, her loving Nonie, and the first thing that happened was that she wasn't going to be allowed to get yesterday and today off, which she requested. In fact, at first it looked like the were going to have Mom's funeral today, because the church wasn't available yesterday.
5 Can you even imagine how her Monday was? Her work was going to give her the time that the funeral was off, and that was it.
6 My Mom saw all of that. On Monday morning we went down to the Chapel and requested to change the original scheduling so that Caitlin wouldn't have to associate her birthday directly with her grandma's funeral, which they thought would be impossible to change.
7 They had a morning service already, the guy said.
8 We asked if they could do an afternoon one, and they said they would try. The guy called the church, but of course nobody was around. It was the priest's day off or something. Sundays must be rough on priests.
9 Anyway, it took forever. I then thought, "Why don't I go to my Mom? She has given so much love to the world, she might be able to put in a good word." Within minutes of that thought, the priest called and said that the service could be moved to yesterday.
10 I then called Caitlin. Just last year, she had been laid off from Manpower in Sacramento due to cut backs. As the phone rang, a Manpower car drove by.
11 I smiled.
12 Caitlin was SO relieved and happy that even the sun looked down and gave a nod.
13 She talked to her boss, and very soon, she had all of yesterday AND all of today off! My Mom had somehow given her a wonderful birthday gift.
14 So happy birthday to my little girl, and let's have a second day of pure joy. It's YOUR day today, make no mistake.
15 Moving backwards: Ever since I saw The Curious Case of Benjamin Button last week, I've thought a lot about the entire concept of life going backwards.
16 Mom's celebration was yesterday, and for a Thursday, it was a beautiful crowd. It was her wish that we don't have a public viewing, and that the church ceremony remain short so that people could celebrate rather than "mourn".
17 You don't say that to my family.
18 It means that you are to have the ultimate party, which we did.
19 If I also may back up, I received this e-mail from Jeff Love the other day. I won't give the entire one, but here is the beginning. I think you'll get the idea:
Hi H
Thanks for saying that you are celebrating. People usually look at me like I am a freak when I go to funerals. That's because I am usually smiling. My personal belief is that when someone dies, the only thing you should be sad about is that they are on a great trip, and it will be awhile until you catch up. Like someone you love flying to Hawaii a couple of days before you leave to start vacation a bit early...
Jeff Love
20 Yesterday's Mercury News had a guy who looked like the Philip Morris boy with a headline that jumped out at me. The headline read, "Bon Voyage, even if it's just across town."
21 The idea was to celebrate and send all the joy and love to the ends of the universe.
22 We did just that. After a rather somber first half in the church, my niece Amy gave a beautiful reading from Ecclesiastes, which the Byrds later turned into the song about how to everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose. That song has always had meaning to HER Mom, my sister Linda. I gave a talk celebrating not only my Mom, but everybody in the room, and everybody who ever had to go through something like this. I ended mine with references to the song, and also a song that was meaningful to Gayle entitled "Ribbons Down my Back" from Hello, Dolly!, and finally, a reference to "Look to the Rainbow", a song I sang a few years ago as a tribute to my Mom, and a song that was meaningful to everybody in my family.
23 And THEN my sister Gayle read an amusing poem my Dad wrote my Mom on her 75th birthday. I don't have either here right now but I'll try to copy both for Monday.
24 Gayle's talk was extempore, and hilarious. Unless someone filmed it, it may be special to the people lucky enough to have heard it.
25 The poem was essentially about how my Mom HAD to marry my Dad because he just wouldn't go away, and "now you're stuck with Robert J."
26 My Dad was obviously an O.G. (Original Gangsta). He might actually have been THE O.G. Sweet, because it had been a lot of stress planning the celebration at home, and the three of us had been going in all sorts of different directions. After Gayle's amazingly eloquent talk, we all hugged, and held one another in the front row. It was a moment.
27 Sweet. So much more. DN readers might realize that Wolcott, Ken and Vicky Ponticelli, Edward, Sparky, Trinh, and Nhat all got there, and I hope I'm not leaving anyone out. Thuy Ann's mom woke up at 5:30 a.m. to make some beautiful orchids and have them sent over, followed by a poem she wrote to me about how my Mom inspired my students. She even called later at 11 p.m. to see how things were.
28 Sparky stayed and charmed the entire family and was given a public salute by my sister Gayle, and was even invited by Gayle to visit Mars!
29 The point here is that I guess my Mom got to a LOT more people than anyone can ever begin to imagine.
30 Moving forwards: Perhaps the best part of yesterday was watching everything. At our house my best friend from childhood Brian showed up and set up a bar in the patio. I hadn't seen him since my LAST friend's Mom's funeral. He was amazing. I got to introduce him to Sparky.
31 My aunts Tag (obviously another O.G., given the name) and Lorraine listened to swing music with my dad in the early afternoon. Many of us knew the songs and chimed in. All my parents' best friends were there, the real Great Generation, gathered to enjoy one another's company with hope that we will now begin having more and more celebrations that aren't centered around a tragic occurrence. We de-tragicked much of it pretty swiftly. We're having a birthday party for Tag come July!
32 My wife Helene and her best friend from high school Debbie set everything up, and then both charmed everyone, and were as lovely as ever. How come I got ugly and they stayed the same lol!
33 And my greatest joy of them all was looking over all afternoon and night and watching Caitlin smiling, laughing, and bringing so much joy to the entire thing. She was there, and instead of this being the worst birthday ever, actually got TWO parties in a pair of days. Doubleheader!
34 She laughed with all her cousins, and also with her own best friend, her sister Nicole. What better gift?
35 So much love.
36 So that's how it all went. It was almost like a quick idea of what things will be like when we do leave this place.
37 Mom has already arrived a few days early.
38 We wouldn't want the windows in heaven to be dirty now, would we?
39 And to Caitlin: Today is YOUR day sweetie. You may live life and love life today, and now, every day. Nonie insists.
40 I love you kiddo.
41 Peace.
Your Daddy.
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